The Course in Miracles challenges us to take a deep look at our “special relationships”. This can be with another person, a religion, a political party or even money. You know you are in a “special relationship” if you believe the other person “completes” you. Special relationships are never whole or healthy. For if you believe another person “completes” you then you must think that you are “incomplete”. Nothing is further from the truth.
The Course states: “All things you seek to make your value greater in your sight limit you further, hide your worth from you, and add another bar across the door that leads to true awareness of your Self.” A “holy relationship” on the other hand starts with the premise that each person has looked within and seen no lack. You are God discovering yourself through your beloved.
When you find yourself experiencing distress and anger over a loved one’s behavior try shifting your vision. Try focusing away from the expected behavior you would have them do and look for the good and loving points about them. You cannot control the behavior or choices of others. But you can choose to detach from so called control of others. Keep your preferences in perspective and don’t lose your peace over them.
You can also invite your Higher Power into your relationships. The Holy Spirit is the part of your mind united with divine wisdom. The Holy Spirit will resolve your relationship issues in miraculous ways. But you must be willing to be open, seek and ask for Its guidance. Richard Bach said, “True love stories never have endings.”
Say with me: “I am willing to let go of the need to control others behavior. I see myself and others as whole, complete and innocent. I live in the present moment, making it a “holy instant” without dragging past disappointments into it. I am free and unlimited and for the acceptance of this truth I am grateful. And it is so.”
